You are Beautiful

As I am typing this up, it is currently freezing outside and inside my home. I can't help but shake but I really want to write about this. 

What is beauty? is it really something physical or does it come from within? In my opinion it is both. I don't think beauty comes in a generic form. Beauty comes in different shapes, types, and sizes. It comes in the most basic form and it is not difficult to attain because we are all beautiful in a unique way. There might be people that think otherwise due to the high number of adverts that tell women that looking a certain way is the only way to be pretty or be considered beautiful by the rest of us in the world. That is one of the biggest lies in the world because we all have different classifications for beauty. We might think beauty is not something that comes from the outside but something that comes from the inside. It might be something that comes from the outside and not the inside. When I say that it comes from the outside I don't mean to specify that certain attributes are more attractive than others. I think that we all find different features attractive and should respect that. I've seen girls post online that they don't like their bodies and they wish to be a certain size so guys will like them. Beauty can't be something that you define on a scale that depends on how many guys like you. If a guy doesn't like you the way you want him to well then he doesn't and you have to accept that. You can't force someone to like you the same way you like them but that doesn't mean that changing your body will make them like you. If a person is worth being with and isn't going to be a jerk they won't judge you for your physical aspect. They will accept you the way you are. If that were the way it worked I don't think a lot of us would be happy with the person we are with. When it comes to someone liking you, in my opinion, it means that they like you for the person you are and how you act and carry yourself around. Being insecure is nothing new to humans and I think that everyone has something to be insecure about. Whether it'd be from your face to your body or to the way you sound to people, everyone has some sort of insecurity. The difference is that some of us are stopped by them and some of us work through them and don't let something we can change block us from becoming a better person. I think the best way to overcome insecurities is to love yourself. If you love yourself people around you will love you because you emit a certain air that shows that nothing can stop you. You will look good because you feel good in your own skin. Its not something completely easy but it can be done with help and support from the people that love you. I understand that sometimes even the people close to you put you down. My only advice to that is to get rid of those people. Those people are not good for you and for your state of mind. A good person will help you be better and like you for who you are and will never put you down but will lift you up. This person doesn't have to be a significant other, it can be your friend or your coworker or your neighbor. If you trust someone who is really worth putting your trust in they will return that as well. If people hate on you because you don't meet or exceed their expectations then they are not good people to be around. You might have fun with them but at the end of the day they are not looking out for you in the best way. Changing yourself and not letting your true self out will not make it a better life but you will continue to suffer. You have to love yourself in order to love another. You have to respect yourself in order to respect another. I feel that's the reason why there is a problem with bullying. Many people walk around life hating and envying other people that they don't take care of themselves and when they see someone doing well they want to bring them down because they don't want to be the incompetent person left behind. Don't let envious people put you down. You are beautiful just the way you are and changing the beautiful person that you are won't make it better. If you are trying to reach a goal don't do it for someone else but for yourself because in the end you are the best friend you could ever have. Let people help you, but don't let people bring you down. Most of all don't ever think you are less then anyone else because you are unique and you can do whatever you put your mind to do. 

Have a wonderful weekend

xx